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More Tips:

1. Telling Your Teens That You Love Them

2. What Your Teens Are Doing After School

3. Talking to Kids About Sex

4. Managing Holiday Stress and the Blues

5. TV and Your Teen

6. Physical Activity and Nutrition for Teens

7. Communicating Effectively with Teens

8. Giving Your Teens the Gifts of Time & Attention

9. Setting a Healthy Example

10. Supporting Your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer* or Questioning Child

11. Teen Dating Violence

12. Praising Your Child

13. Internet Safety

14. Community Service and Family Volunteering

15. The Arts For Young People

16. Teen Suicide

17. Transition Planning: Preparing Your Teenager with Special Needs for Adulthood

18. Helping Your Child Say "No" to Tobacco

19. Listening

20. Setting an Example

21. Drinking and Partying

22. Asking for Help

23. Setting Rules

24. Talking to Your Teens, Even About Uncomfortable Things

25. Being There for Kids

26. Prom Anxiety

27. The Choking Game

28. Helping Teens Avoid Pregnancy

29. High School Graduation and Keeping Teens Safe

30. Summer Safety

31. Teens with Time on Their Hands in the Summer

32. How to Talk to Teens About Traumatic Events

33. Dangerous Hookah (Water Pipe) Smoking

34. Helping Children and Youth Adjust to a New School

35. Monitoring Social Sites Like MySpace

 

More Resources:

Rhode Island Department of Health
Tobacco Control Program:
401-222-7463

American Lung Association
Resource Center:
401-421-6487

www.trytostop.org

www.cdc.gov/tobacco

 


TIPS ON RAISING YOUR PRE-TEENS AND TEENS

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Helping Your Child Say "No" to Tobacco

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Every day tobacco companies get about 3,000 new customers – kids1. Cigarette smoking by children and teenagers in the United States is a major public health problem. Smoking in youth seems to determine lifetime smoking habits, as most adult smokers started when they were preteens or teenagers. There's also evidence that people who begin smoking before the age of 20 have the highest rate and earliest beginnings of long-term illnesses such as heart disease and high blood pressure.

Tobacco is the number one preventable cause of death in the United States. Each day in the United States, approximately 4000 youths aged 12 to 17 try their first cigarette.2 If current patterns of smoking continue, about 6.4 million of today’s children will die too soon from a smoking-related disease.3 Although the percentage of high school students who smoke has gone down in recent years, rates remain high: 22% of high school students report cigarette use.4

Here in Rhode Island:

  • 19% of high school students smoke;
  • 2,600 kids under age 18 become new smokers each year;
  • 53,000 kids are exposed to secondhand smoke each year; and
  • 2.7 million packs of cigarettes are bought or smoked by kids each year.

Research shows that if your child does not use tobacco products before 18 years of age it is not likely that he or she will begin using them later in life.

Children are learning about smoking and tobacco everyday—in school, from friends, from TV and movies. As parents, you can play an important role in helping your child understand the dangers of tobacco use, and teaching them how to stay away from it.

  • Be a good role model. Set a good example for your children by not smoking or using other tobacco products – quit now or never start. If you smoke, try to stop right away. In the meantime, don’t use tobacco in front of your children. Don’t offer it to them and don’t leave it where they can easily get it.
  • Talk to your children about smoking and tobacco. Start talking to your children about tobacco use at age five or six, and keep talking through their high school years. Many kids start using tobacco by age 11, and many are addicted by age 14. Look for opportunities to talk about the dangers of smoking. Talk directly to children about the risks of tobacco use; if friends or relatives died from tobacco-related illnesses let your kids know. Bring up the subject if you see something about smoking on TV or in the newspaper. Discuss with your kids how tobacco companies use billboards, magazines, movies, and TV try to make smoking look cool.
  • Teach your children how to say “no”. Know if your kids’ friends use tobacco. Talk about ways to say “no” to tobacco. Young people need encouragement and support to stay tobacco free. Help them make a list of reasons not to smoke. Say, “Lets practice saying no. Pretend I’m a friend offering you a cigarette.” Teach your children to stand up for what they believe, which can earn them respect from good friends.
  • Protect children from secondhand smoke. Make your home smoke-free. Ask people who visit not to smoke inside your home. Avoid smoking in the car or other closed areas. Teach your children the dangers of secondhand smoke and ways to avoid exposure to somebody else’s smoke.

REMEMBER:
You can make a difference! Help your children grow up tobacco free!

If your child is smoking or chewing tobacco, it will be up to him or her to quit. But you can help. Here’s how:

  • Try to avoid threats and punishment. Find out why your child is smoking. Your child may be influenced by peer pressure or may want to get your attention. Talk to your child about ways to say “no” to tobacco.
  • Show your interest in a helpful way. Find out what changes can be made in your child’s life to help him/her stop.
  • If you smoke, quit. If you did smoke and have already quit, talk to your child about your experience. Tell them what helped you quit.
  • Talk to your child’s doctor. He or she may be able to help.
  • Suggest to your child’s friends that they quit together, if a group of them smoke. Offer to help and support them.
  • Be supportive. You and your child need to prepare for the mood swings and crankiness that can come with nicotine withdrawal.
  • Finally, reward your child when he or she quits. Plan something special for you to do together. Helping your child is one of the best parenting activities you could ever do.
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